There are many stages in parenting that are difficult to abandon. Even when everything in our hearts tells us that we have no more children, there is a kind of grieving process in which all the “first” end. For parents who have made that choice before they are ready to decide for themselves, processing these feelings is more complicated. And that is what Chrissy Teigen is working on.
Chrissy and her husband, John Legend, have spoken openly about the grief of their son, Jack, who died at just 20 weeks’ gestation. Luna and Miles’s mother has been very open about the complicated emotions of giving birth to a baby she didn’t bring home. And it cannot increase. All this after a very challenging pregnancy with some very frightening complications. It’s heavy, and most families feel that they need to carry all that weight on their own.
Chrissy has been so generous in sharing her feelings so openly. Be willing to show your vulnerability. To show other parents that their pain is real, it is important, and many factors arise when we walk in the fog of sadness.
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In her last speech, Chrissy opened up about her postpartum body. Three months after giving birth and saying “goodbye” to Jack, she admitted that it is “frustrating” that she still has her belly.
“This is me and my body, just yesterday,” she shared on Instagram on December 23. “Even though I am no longer pregnant, every look in the mirror reminds me of what it could have been. And I have no idea why I still have that cock, honestly. It’s frustrating.”
There is a complicated relationship that a mother can have with her body after going through something so traumatic. And for Chrissy, in addition to processing this, she also needs to agree that the decision to have more children, or not, no longer depends on her and John.
This is very heavy.
She continued: “But I am proud of where this whole journey has taken my body and mind in other ways. I love being pregnant, so much, and I’m sad that I’m never again. But I’m lucky to have two incredible little ones who are turning into bigger people more and more each day. Anyhoo. Love you.”
We cannot rush the grieving process. And we are grateful that Chrissy has shown her large circle of influence a small window into her pain. Last month, Chrissy and John talked about keeping a little bit of sunshine in their lives while processing all of this as a family.
“You learn how to handle this. I am very proud to say that there are several different therapies that I am using to hopefully become the same person I was, and I am fine with that, ”said Chrissy People. “I’m fine with allowing myself to have good days and bad days.”
It is not easy to be vulnerable. And we are sending all our love to her.
