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Becca Kufrin told Matt James the question he would ask contestants if he asked “Bachelorette” again.
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Kufrin told Insider that she would ask who they voted for in the 2020 elections.
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Kufrin and her fiance Garrett Yrigoyen broke up months after controversial posts on social media.
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When it came time for Becca Kufrin to give Matt James a few words of wisdom before her “Bachelor” period began, the former “Bachelorette” star told him the only question she would ask her contestants if she could do the show. all over again.
“I told him, look, if I were the Bachelorette again, the second I walked into the house after meeting everyone, I would say, ‘Who did you vote for and why? Let’s talk about it,'” Kufrin said. Insider.
“There is no way in hell they can show this conversation,” she added with a laugh. “But for me, especially living last year, it would be very important for me.”
For a franchise as notoriously apolitical as ‘The Bachelor’, politics played an important role in Kufrin’s own experience with the program
Before his “The Bachelorette” season aired in May 2018, Kufrin winner and new fiancé Garrett Yrigoyen made headlines after it was revealed that he liked Instagram posts that mocked transsexuals, immigrant children and a victim school shooting.
Kufrin told Insider that Yrigoyen’s activity on Instagram was a “total shock” to her.
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“I was in a very strange limbo phase, where I was happily engaged, I was in a great cause of being in love and the program had worked for me, but … I couldn’t talk about it because I couldn’t reveal who I chose” , she said.
“The pressure I felt – and I think any clue can attest to that – is astronomical,” continued Kufrin. “You have this huge franchise that is riding on your shoulders.”
After Yrigoyen’s likes on Instagram were revealed, Kufrin said the couple had many difficult conversations
Kufrin was with Yrigoyen after his ending aired while he apologized for his likes on Instagram in his special “After the Final Rose”. Still, she did not hesitate to confront Yrigoyen amid the controversy, she said.
“Why did you do that and what was your thought process at the moment?” Kufrin remembers asking him. “Has that changed? Can you learn? Can you grow? Can you move on?”
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While on camera, Kufrin supported her then-fiance, now she feels differently about the situation.
“I really controlled what is just acceptable to me and what is not,” she told Insider.
Kufrin and Yrigoyen were together for more than two years, during which she said they were ‘living in this white bubble of privilege’
Despite the dust raised, Kufrin and Yrigoyen stayed together for more than two years.
And it wasn’t until last year “when the pandemic hit and George Floyd was murdered that we started having different types of conversations that we didn’t necessarily have before,” said the reality star.
Yrigoyen’s activity on Instagram made headlines once again when he posted in support of the police as Black Lives Matter protests spread across the United States in June.
A few days later, during her podcast “Bachelor Happy Hour”, Kufrin told her co-host and also “Bachelorette” star Rachel Lindsay that she thought Yrigoyen’s post was “deaf”.
“Garrett is my fiance and I love him deeply. I believe he is a good person,” she said. “I don’t think he meant it maliciously … I think he was deaf to tones and it was the wrong time, message and feeling.”
Three months later, Kufrin announced that she and Yrigoyen had broken off their engagement.
Kufrin told Insider that the couple’s separation was not just an Instagram post. But she had spent the summer wondering about the differences between them.
“I was like … what’s important to me? What’s important to him?” she remembered. “Will we be able to build a lifelong relationship out of our differences?”
Kufrin continued, “How are we going to raise children? What kind of conversation do we want to have with these children? Can I continue in this relationship and live with myself and feel that it is the right decision for me and my future children?”
Kufrin told James to make sure he asked “the right questions” during his own “single” journey
Although Kufrin did not ask many of the difficult questions during her run on “The Bachelorette” in 2018, she has advice for current “Bachelor” James, who is the first black man in the position.
“I said to him, ‘When you start talking about girls, you can really imagine how to start a life and introduce your family, make sure to ask the right questions for you,” she recalled. “Just … make sure you don’t leave this experience with any of these women wishing you had more time to meet them or find out who they are.”
“The Bachelor” airs on Monday nights at 8 pm ET / PT on ABC.
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