Anyone looking for a drama between Demi Moore and Emma Hemming, who married Moore’s ex-husband Bruce Willis, can look elsewhere. Women love each other as “family”.
On International Women’s Day, Moore dedicated an Instagram post to actress and model Hemming, who married Willis in 2009, nine years after Moore’s divorce was finalized. Hemming and Willis share daughters Mabel, 8, and Evelyn, 6, and Moore and Willis share daughters Rumer, 32, Tallulah, 27, and Scout, 29.
“I see her as a family that I am honored to call a friend,” Moore wrote of Hemming. “Our children are sisters and there is still no name for what our family connection is. We are united mothers, sisters connected in this crazy adventure of life. Emma is a beautiful mother dedicated to her family, an absolutely beautiful woman …” Moore too praised Punky Brewster actress Soleil Moon Frye for her “warmth, courage and openness.”
Hemming responded by writing, “Well, if it didn’t touch my soul. Thanks, Demi, I love you too.”
Although Moore, 57, and Willis, 65, broke up when their relationship burst under the “huge magnifying glass” of fame (as he once said) and / or his uncertainty about marriage (as she wrote in her 2019 memoirs) Inside out), the two saw the big picture for their children. “I never had to share my holidays or birthdays,” Rumer once told Larry King about his parents’ friendship. “They always made an effort to do all the family events together and made a great effort to still have our family as a unit, rather than two separate things, which I think really had an impact.” THE GI Jane The actress attended Hemming and Willis’ vow renewal ceremony in 2019, and last year the two families were quarantined together in Idaho.
As beautiful as these friendships may seem, are they rare?
Vice President Kamala Harris called Kerstin Emhoff (ex-wife of her husband Doug Emhoff) “an incredible mother” in an August rehearsal for Elle. “Kerstin and I got along well and are dear friends,” she wrote. “She and I became a pair of cheerleaders in the stands at Ella’s swimming competitions and basketball games, often to Ella’s embarrassment. Sometimes we joke that our modern family is almost too functional.” And Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin, whose “conscious separation” in 2014 started a friendship, including their respective partners Brad Falchuk and Dakota Johnson.
Others maintain cordial relationships with their former partners, such as Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck, who divorced in 2018 after separating three years earlier. Garner said The Hollywood Reporter on Wednesday that she no longer regrets the lost fantasy of dancing with Affleck at her daughter’s future wedding (as she expressed the Vanity Fair in 2016). “When our kids get married, let’s dance, I know that now,” said Garner. “Let’s go boogaloo and we will have a lot of fun. I don’t care about that anymore.” And Tom Brady and Gisele Bündchen have a friendly parenting relationship with Bridget Moynahan, the mother of Brady’s 13-year-old son.
According to C. Vaile Wright, a licensed psychologist and senior director of health innovation at the American Psychological Association, says there are incentives for people to remain friends with a former partner, such as to help their parents, work or reputation. family . “But the circumstances of a separation – poor financial management, infidelity, incompatibility – can also influence that decision,” she told Yahoo Life. She says that the personality of each partner, whether they are “to please people” or avoid conflicts, can create a post-breakup friendship.
But making friends with an ex – or your partner – is a decision Wright says shouldn’t be forced as a “mature” choice. She adds that friendship between a current partner and the previous one may be easier if there is a substantial connection beyond the primary relationship.
However, ex-couples should not necessarily expect a platonic ending like in Hollywood or on social media. “Relationships come and go and you may not have been so optimistic at another time,” says Wright. “It could be an unreal comparison.”
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