DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I have lived together for almost five years. His parents bought a house a few doors down. They show up whenever they feel like it and even come into our room while we are in bed. I need this to stop.
His mother and I had a disagreement in the past because she felt she had a right to control everything as far as I keep my laundry. This is a delicate matter with my boyfriend, let alone with his mother. Please help me. – YOU NEED PRIVACY IN MARYLAND
DARLING NEEDS PRIVACY: No one should enter your home without first asking permission, and that goes for your boyfriend’s parents. That they come into your room while you and your child are in bed is too much.
I can’t understand why this would be a “sensitive” subject with your boyfriend. When he became an adult and moved out of his parents’ home, it certainly had something to do with privacy. It’s time for you to change the locks on your doors.
Talk to a professional mediator, if necessary. If you can’t do that, start counting your blessings. The main one should be thanking the Lord because this woman is not your mother-in-law.
DEAR ABBY: I’m a 16 year old girl with a problem. It takes me forever to choose an outfit in the morning, no matter the occasion. It’s not that I’m a fashionista. It’s just that I can’t put together anything that makes me feel comfortable.
I’ll put something on, I think I like it, I go into the bathroom and notice things I don’t like. It’s starting to get on my nerves. I tried to buy clothes that I know I like, but even so, it feels like I’m changing clothes three or four times before I leave. How can I feel more comfortable with what I’m wearing? – FIGHTING FASHION IN MICHIGAN
FASHION FACE GUY: Try to pack your clothes and coordinate your accessories the night before. After doing this, leave the room for about an hour. If you like what you set up before going to bed, you are likely to like it in the morning. You will also be less stressed and will not have wasted time obsessing before leaving home.
DEAR ABBY: I am suffering because my mother favors my brother. I talked to her about it a few times, but she said it hurts when I say things like that. I don’t speak to her now, but I’m very concerned about that. I invited her on a visit so she could meet my fiance, but she refuses. She says it is a very long journey. I miss her so much and I want to see her. My fiance told me to take a break, but I don’t think it’s fair. What can I do about this situation? – CLASSIFIED SECOND IN NORTH CAROLINA
DEAR RANKED SECOND: As you miss your mother and want to see her, I suggest you take a long trip and visit her. And when you do, bring your fiancé.
Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Get in touch with Abby guy at www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.