DEAR ABBY: I had a friend that I talked to every day while doing my deliveries for work. We had between six and 25 conversations a day. For months it was never a problem. Suddenly, I was blocked on her social networks, and her boyfriend (my husband’s good friend) texted me to leave her alone!
I felt taken aback, as it was out of nowhere, without warning or any discussion between her and me about the amount of time we were talking.
Well, they’re using my Disney + streaming service and I feel like they’re taking advantage of me. I can’t go to their house or talk to her anymore, but my husband is welcome anytime. I pay Disney + with my personal money. Would it be so bad if I removed it from my account and changed my password? – SPOKE IN OHIO
DEAR TALKED: Talking to someone 25 times a day was excessive. Her friend had things she had to do besides keep her company on her way. It is possible that, instead of telling you that it has become too much for her, she complained to her boyfriend and he decided to act on her behalf.
The way it was handled is unfortunate. That your husband continues to socialize with them while you are ostracized is also unfortunate. Since the friendship is over and the streaming account is paid for with your personal money, I see no reason why you shouldn’t remove her access to it.
DEAR ABBY: My brother says everything he thinks, regardless of anyone’s feelings. He boasts that he has no health insurance and says his doctors will see him for $ 10, which, believe it or not, they do. He boasts that he does not have life insurance and says that his children will have to bear the funeral expenses when he dies. He spent thousands on the house he recently bought, so money is not the problem.
He doesn’t believe in giving gifts, or even sending a card. He is my only brother and, over the years, I have given him more than you can imagine. On a recent visit to pick up something he asked my husband for, he started insulting me without provocation. He called me several common names. To avoid a confrontation, I entered the house. What do I do to put my brother in his place to stop him? – SISTER OF A JERK
DEAR SISTER: Stop tolerating this! Stop giving things to your brother and doing favors for him. Make a conscious effort to spend less time (or any time) in his presence. It should be clear that your efforts were not appreciated, so do yourself a favor: spend time with people who treat you well, appreciate what you do for them and give back.
DEAR READERS: On this day of love, I want you to know how much I value the relationship I have with you. I wish you all a happy Valentine’s Day. … WITH LOVE, ABBY
Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Abby guy at www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.