Of course, she can be a Grammy nominee twice, headlining the Super Bowl, opening artist and natural beauty (with her own cosmetics line, no less). But that doesn’t mean Jennifer Lopez always loved herself.
In fact, on January 22, J.Lo opened in a new #CoachConversations video about how she didn’t feel well in previous relationships.
Speaking with purpose, coach Jay Shetty, Jennifer revealed, “I remember when I was in therapy in the beginning, you know, almost in my late 30s and there was a lot of talk about loving yourself and I was like, ‘I love myself’.”
She continued, “But obviously I was doing all those things in my personal relationships that didn’t seem to be loving me, but I didn’t even understand the concept of it. It took and it’s a journey and it’s still a journey for me.”
So, which ex was she referring to? Well, J.Lo, now 51, was married to Marc Anthony from 2004 to 2014.
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She didn’t name the Man on fire actor directly, but she was 34 when they married and 44 when they officially divorced (although they split up three years earlier).
It seems that she realized the importance of self-love in her late thirties, just before severing ties with Marc.
In 2016, “Jenny from the Block” said W Magazine, “When my marriage ended, it was not easy to find forgiveness. It was not the dream I expected, and it would have been easier to fan the flames of resentment, disappointment and anger. But Marc is the father of my children, and it will never though. So, I have to work to fix things. And this is by far the most difficult job I do. “
She admitted that she “held on” for seven years, but knew “very quickly that it was not the right thing”.
It seems that being an ex worked better for the stars, who share 12-year-old twins Emme Maribel Muñiz and Maximilian David Muñiz.
Jennifer even gave Marc credit for helping her find her trust. “He saw where I suffered,” she shared in 2018. “He said, ‘You are a great singer. Never let anyone say that you are not a great singer. ‘ And I respected him a lot because I consider him one of the best singers of all time. “
Marc went on to marry model Shannon De Lima, a relationship that lasted from 2014 to 2017, while J.Lo, of course, is associated with Alex Rodriguez.
In his conversation with Coach today, J.Lo went on to talk about his evolution as a mother, person and artist.
“People always say, ‘Oh, she reinvents herself. It is a reinvention. ‘ I don’t like that word, “said the singer.” I’m not reinventing or trying to be something different or trying to trick people into something new. It is an evolution. “
She said that the most important thing about this personal evolution is listening to yourself and your internal conversation.
Jennifer explained: “Because what you say and what you think, and I say this to my children all the time, it becomes your reality. If you are saying to yourself ‘I will be this or I will be that’ or you are saying to yourself ‘I am a loser of shit’, then you will be a loser of shit. Whatever it is, tell yourself and it will manifest. “
She added: “I really believe that we create our lives. Again, not just with our actions and the things we do, but with the things we think and the internal dialogue we give.”
This relates to her career, too, as she tries to remain stuck with who she is, despite “pressure” from others. “To be in this business, where people are always trying to say what you should and shouldn’t do, you really have to have a strong sense of identity, courage and instinct and follow that,” said Jennifer.
Watch the full interview above.